How much proof is really needed before you can declare your partner a cheater?
"He comes home smelling like sex." "I found a pair of underwear, that didn't belong to me." "He had scratches on his back, and sucker bites on his neck." These are some of the comments that I have heard various women state,when they are curious as to whether their mates are being faithful. But for some insane reason these statements still don't seem to be enough for the average woman involved in these types of relationships to solidify the fact that their partners are unfaithful!
The shameful part is that with these women knowing these things they still remain in their current situations, which is only sending a message to their mates that they are able to "have their cake and eat it too", and get away with it. Now starts the sickening cycle. The woman's self esteem is dropped to an all time low, so the chances of her breaking up with her current unfaithful mate, and ending up with a new mate who will eventually cheat on her as well has risen about 97%. The man in the relationship will more than likely end up meeting a woman, who is considered a "good woman", and because his previous partner allowed him to get away with cheating he is going to play the same tricks on the new partner. And so on and so forth.
Whatever happened to setting standards and boundaries? Following woman's intuition? Loving yourself enough to not settle for anything or anyone?
The truth is their are many signs that give a person all the proof that they need. Everyone knows what things in their relationships are routine, and most of the time when the obvious things start to change is when there is a problem, that could possibly be pushing your mate towards filling a void with an outside party. For example, you find your mate attempting to start fights with you about any and every little thing just so that they can have a reason to storm out of the house. Your mate used to break their neck to come home, and now they get home later and later by the day, and its not because of mandatory overtime. They begin to nit-pick about things that you have done since the beginning of your relationship, i.e, the way you brush your teeth, or how you season the food. You know. Stupid shit! These are just a few of the examples. And trust me I know from my own personal experience as well. I once had my ex start an argument with me because I put sugar in his rice. Something I had been doing our entire relationship. He had to have sugar because he had high blood pressure, and couldn't have salt. But for some reason after 5 years of the same routine he all of a sudden couldn't take it anymore! Laughing my ass off! I knew something was up. And once I got my proof, which didn't take long, I was out the door!
Now don't get me wrong. Temptation is out there and its in a great abundance. It only takes a person a couple of minutes to find themselves caught in a compromising position. It all comes down to if your infidelous partner is worth the effort of forgiving and forgetting their indiscretions. If they are, then by all means work on your relationship. But if they're not.....
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