A Cheater, Is a Cheater, Is A Cheater!

How much proof is really needed before you can declare your partner a cheater? 

"He comes home smelling like sex." "I found a pair of underwear, that didn't belong to me." "He had scratches on his back, and sucker bites on his neck." These are some of the comments that I have heard various women state,when they are curious as to whether their mates are being faithful. But for some insane reason these statements still don't seem to be enough for the average woman involved in these types of relationships to solidify the fact that their partners are unfaithful!

The shameful part is that with these women knowing these things they still remain in their current situations, which is only sending a message to their mates that they are able to "have their cake and eat it too", and get away with it.  Now starts the sickening cycle.  The woman's self esteem is dropped to an all time low, so the chances of her breaking up with her current unfaithful mate, and ending up with a new mate who will eventually cheat on her as well has risen about 97%. The man in the relationship will more than likely end up meeting a woman, who is considered a "good woman", and because his previous partner allowed him to get away with cheating he is going to play the same tricks on the new partner. And so on and so forth. 

Whatever happened to setting standards and boundaries? Following woman's intuition? Loving yourself enough to not settle for anything or anyone?
The truth is their are many signs that give a person all the proof that they need. Everyone knows what things in their relationships are  routine, and most of the time when the obvious things start to change is when there is a problem, that could possibly be pushing your mate towards filling a void with an outside party. For example, you find your mate attempting to start fights with you about any and every little thing just so that they can have  a reason to storm out of the house.  Your mate used to break their neck to come home, and now they get home later and later by the day, and its not because of mandatory overtime. They begin to nit-pick about things that you have done since the beginning of your relationship, i.e, the way you brush your teeth, or how you season the food. You know. Stupid shit! These are just a few of the examples.  And trust me I know from my own personal experience as well. I once had my ex start an argument with me because I put sugar in his rice. Something I had been doing our entire relationship. He had to have sugar because he had high blood pressure, and couldn't have salt. But for some reason after 5 years of the same routine he all of a sudden couldn't take it anymore! Laughing my ass off! I knew something was up. And once I got my proof, which didn't take long, I was out the door!

Now don't get me wrong. Temptation is out there and its in a great abundance. It only takes a person a couple of minutes to find themselves caught in a compromising position.  It all comes down to if your  infidelous partner is worth the effort of forgiving and forgetting their indiscretions.  If they are, then by all means work on your relationship. But if they're not.....

Joke Du Jour

My boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately...
He says that he wants to break up because he needs someone who is financially stable...
I don't know what the hell he's complaining about....
Because I am ALWAYS broke!!!

Joke Du Jour

I was out the other day and a mugger comes up and tries to rob me.....
I told him that I didn't have any money....
So he got me a job....
The only problem is now he's there every payday! LOL

Police On A Power Trip

I live in a neighborhood where seeing police officers with a car pulled to the side of the road, is more common than not. But have the finance issues within the city of Cleveland gotten so bad that police are issuing unfair tickets?

The Ohio Supreme Court recently ruled that police officers have the RIGHT to use unaided visual means to determine if a car is going faster than the posted speed limit. Meaning, they no longer have to rely on the accuracy of a radar gun.  The Supreme Court feels that police officers are well trained to the point that their visual assessments of a drivers' speed is valid enough to JUSTIFY issuing a speeding ticket. While it may seem unfair to many, I advise you to just take the ticket and deal with it.  It has already been proven that the courts will rule in favor of the issuing officer, so going to court with the prepared lines and excuses will not help in any case. This is just as annoying as the cameras that they have put up in various intersections throughout the city that take a picture of your license plate when you are speeding.  The ironic part is that its easier to get out of paying one of those tickets than it will be to get out of one where the officer has no proof beyond his gut feeling. This new ruling is a clear cut case of having to take it up the rear and like it. Thank goodness I don't drive anymore, so unless they come up with a law for walking fast I am in the clear.,

Many people who I spoke to on the subject feel that the police are already petty and issue many of their tickets just because "they can."  I myself used to have this same argument, but sometimes people have to look at the bigger picture.  Police officers are underpaid for one of the most difficult and scariest positions on the planet.  They deal with gun toting, gang banging, one flew over the coo coos nest, nut jobs almost everyday.  You hate to get pulled over by a cop but the first number you dial when your house is broken into, your child has been abducted, you have a stalker ex banging on your door, or you get robbed is 9-1-1. And who do they send? That's right! THE POLICE. And I am sure that everyone who reads this will agree that they have been happy to see them (police officers) during any time of distress.

Love them or hate them they have a job to do like anyone else, and if they didn't issue these tickets that we tend to feel are unnecessary, the city will lose more revenue, which in turn will cause more law enforcement officers to be laid off.

If that happens.... Who You Gonna Call?

Cease and Desist Order Issued By LeBron's Lawyer

LeBron James' attorney issued a cease and desist order yesterday in a desperate attempt to put an end to the rumors that Gloria James and Delonte West are having an affair. In it, Frederick Nance, attorney for LeBron and Gloria James, says the West rumor is "categorically false and per se defamatory." 

Its amazing to me that it has taken so long for this rebuttal to the rumor has come so late in the game.  On one hand the denial of these rumors could be factual, but on the other hand the threesome(no pun intended) could just be trying to put out a rapidly spreading fire. 

Personally for me, the Cleveland Cavaliers are a great team and a threat on the court because they have such awesome chemistry on and off the floor.   This situation might have been the straw that broke that chemistry, and cost them their championship.

Fact or fiction? You decide..........

Pick Up Lines

For decades men have used pick up lines, and depending on the woman they were being used on, these lines have either sealed the deal or sealed their fate.  My own most hated and voted in my top 5 for most corny is.....


Man: "Hey baby how you doin'?"
Woman: "I'm fine."
Man: "I already can see that you fine, I just wanted to know how you was doin'."

I would love to hear what pick up lines are most hated by everyone out there.....

Love Triangle

Rumors have started circulating that Gloria James, Lebron James' mother, has been having an affair with Lebron's teammate, Delonte West. Could these so called rumors eventually become facts?  Many people have speculated that the sudden moral demise of the Cleveland Cavaliers during the second round of the post season is due in part  to Lebron finding out about this shocking affair.  

I am anxiously awaiting comments from the actual players in this game (Delonte, Gloria, and Lebron) in regards to this tawdry matter.

But in the mean time.... I guess "momma gotta have love too!"